Communicate clearly

* Make clear to your partner how you expect to be treated. Let your partner know you will not tolerate any kind of abuse.

* Be honest in your communications

Avoid Dangerous situations

* Avoid places where you'll be alone until you get to know your partner. Double-date or hang-out together with other friends.

* Let someone know what your plans are for the evening.

Be in control

* Don't be helpless or "in debt" to a dating partner.

* Have your own way to get home.

* Pay your own way.

* Don't use alcohol or other drugs. These substances can severely hamper your ability to think clearly and act quickly if you find yourself in a dangerous situation.

Be careful

Think twice about going out with someone who:

* Often puts down men or women with comments such as, "Girls are so stupid." or "Guys are such jerks."

* Uses alcohol or other drugs.

* Enjoys pornography and looking at "dirty pictures."

* Wants to be in control of where you go, what you do, who you see, etc.

* Gets angry and aggressive very easily.

* Uses physical force (squeezing, pushing, etc.).

* Drives recklessly especially with you in the car.

Possible effects of dating violence:

Loss of appetite

Headaches

Nervousness

Weight Loss

Sadness

Self-blame

Confusion

Anxiety

Guilt

Bruises or broken bones

Shame

Mistrust of self

Mistrust of others

Depression

Fear

Feelings of Worthlessness

Terror

Death

Suicide

Permanent injury