Tactics Of Control

Using Emotional Abuse

• Putting you down
• Making you feel bad about yourself
• Calling you names
• Making you think you're crazy
• Playing mind games
• Humiliating you
• Making you feel guilty

Using Children

• Making you feel guilty about the children
• Using the children to relay messages
• Using visitation to harass you
• Threatening to take the children away

Using Male Privilege

• Treating you like a servant
• Making all the big decisions
• Acting like the "Master  of the Castle"
• Being the one to define men and women's roles

Using Economic Abuse

• Preventing you from getting or keeping a job
• Making you ask for money
• Giving you an allowance
• Taking your money
• Not letting you know about or have access to family income

Using  Isolation

• Controlling what you do, who you talk to and see, what you read, and where you go
• Limit your outside involvement
• Using jealousy to justify actions

Minimizing, Denying, Blaming

• Making light of the abuse and not taking your concerns about it seriously
• Saying it didn't happen
• Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
• Saying you caused it

Using Coercion & Threats

• Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt you
• Threatening to leave you, commit suicide, or report you to welfare
• Making you drop charges
• Making you do illegal things
• Using intimidation
• Making you afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
• Smashing things
• Abusing pets
• Displaying weapons

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