Getting a Protection Order

IF YOU ARE UNDER 18 you may be able to get a protection order with the help of an adult. A protection order states that your abuser may not hurt, harass or come into contact with you for  90 to 180 days. An adult begins this process by filling out a family violence petition on your behalf in the magistrate clerk's office. In the petition, she or he must explain why you need the protection and what kind of protection you need. The petition should describe the violence that the abuser did or threatened to do. Even if you have a protective order, you must also take steps to protect yourself.

Within five days, a hearing will be scheduled. Here, you will answer questions about the abuse, the abuser will answer questions and the magistrate will decide whether to give you a protection order.

Call the police. Having a protection order does not guarantee your safety if the abuser dose not obey the protection order.

What Can I Do To Help A Friend?

Believe your friend. Victims need to know they will not be doubted, or blamed for the abuse. Assure you friend of confidentiality.

Support your friend. It's not always easy to admit there's a problem. Get information from the local domestic violence program or rape crisis center.

Be there for your friend as your friend goes through the hard work of questioning and making decisions. Encourage your friend to get help and get out of the relationship.

Suggest options for your friend. Often, a victim of abuse will feel there are no choices. Help your friend think of ways to overcome fears and concerns.

Know when you are in "over your head" and seek professional help from the community. Your life as well as the life of your friend is important.